Side Tracked

I will be posting part 2 of 7 tomorrow, my Father is more difficult to write about then anticipated.
I linked the following at the bottom of my previous post, It struck me today that it deserved its own post.


Rules of Unhealthy Families (emphasis added)

1. Don't talk about problems; if you must talk about problems never talk about the real problems.
2. Don't express feelings.
3. Never talk to another family member directly; always go through another person.
4. Be strong, be good, be right, be perfect.
5. Make us proud.
6. Don't be selfish.
7. Do as I say, not as I do.
8. It's not O.K. to play or to be playful.
9. Don't rock the boat.
10. Rigid roles.
11. Rigid rules.
12. Family secrets.
13. Resist outsiders from entering the system.
14. No personal privacy; unclear personal boundaries.
15. False loyalty to the family; members never free to leave the system.
16. Family resists change.
17. There is no unity; the family is fragmented.

Amazingly accurate description